All of a sudden, life said, “Whoever told you that I give warnings? Here… deal with this situation! And yes, please don’t try to seek help, because the timing is just perfect - you simply have no one around. FYI, I made sure of that. Now don’t look at me like that.. I don’t answer the ‘Is it fair?’ question.”
This is has been my tag line on the gtalk from few days (k I know it’s too big to be a tag line) and it has been inviting a few extreme reactions from my friends too. Some asking ‘What happened? Why such a glum message?’.. some liking it too much that they have COPIED it… copycats!! Some just asking me to remove it… But whatever the reaction of my friends be, the point is that this hit me suddenly & I could not mean it more anytime else in life than I do now. Life has been unfair, imposing & unresponsive to some of the people I know. Losing a parent for e.g. a tragedy each one of us has to go though sometime in life. And most often than not, life chooses the worst possible time to give us this blow. One of my seniors lost a parent recently. He is the lone child of his parents. I have heard that the trauma was so strong for him that he has turned into a walking body, doesn’t say ‘hi’ to his friends, doesn’t show any emotions, just sits there deaf & dumb, goes to office & comes back home. There have been a couple of other things happening & I would refrain from mentioning them because nobody is going to feel good after reading them but the point here is what do you do when life gives you a blow right on your face? How do you deal with it? What is the antidote for life’s blind turns? Support of your friends, pursuing an interest you are passionate about, or charity?
I myself am going through a kind of darkish phase of life these days, but when I look around, there are worse things happening to people. Not that this makes me happy, but this makes me feel connected & helps me feel their pain more than an otherwise happy soul would feel. I think that’s why my ‘glum’ gtalk message. I have also been trying to do a couple of things myself from the last few days to ease things but I really don’t know what works what does not, or if it’s just the time that helps. But I do believe in one thing - power of human mind. I have observed (with myself as well as with others) that we cannot remain in a low mood for long because it is just not sustainable for our system (lest we go mad!). I think human mind has a tendency to get conditioned very quickly, so a part of it is that we get used to the pain & so are able to remain sane.. but then again it is a very subjective matter & varies from person to person & situation to situation…
Well actually, this post is more of a question.. I would leave it like that only… what can be done? When I hear about a tragedy my friend is going through, what do I do? Listen to her? What else? What do I do when I get hit by an unexpected unpleasant surprise? Rely on my support system – friends, family? Or lock myself up in a room only to emerge after some days having lost 4-5 kgs & with dark circles under my eyes? What can one do? Just wait for it to pass & mind to get conditioned. May be?
2 comments:
hmm i guess, as death in inevitable in one life, tragedy in one form of other is also inevitable for all living begins, but i guess each individual deals in its VERY own way, like one you gave the example of a person who does even say hi to anyone, while i know the other end, where the person might be dieing from inside but no one from his/her face will come to know abt the trauma in his/her mind. I dont know much, but the dark phase as you call it is sooo freaking hard........
"Do not watch the petals fall from the rose with sadness, know that, like life, things sometimes must fade, before they can bloom again" (anon)
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